Monday, June 2, 2014

Being a MOM, sharing some tips and reality…

“God doesn't require us to succeed, he only requires that you try.” 
― Mother Teresa

Amazed at how life changed after being a Mommy, to two beautiful kids. I am thrilled… but feel unsure like many in my boat.. I am sure would agree.

The journey from an independent working woman to a full time Mommy has deprived me of the many abilities to have a full time career,  having to not deal with routine to do things at odd hours, or simply do nothing or anything. They were past luxuries!
This post is not about the rumblings of a Mommy, but about little things that women can adopt to change their living.

Here is a list of habits I inculcated in my little ones to ensure that they become independent soon:
This is a piece of my journey I will be glad to know your tips, feel free to leave your list in the comment section at the end of this post, may be we can together arrive at a better comprehensive list. Looking to learn more from you. 
Please contribute your learning!

- Provide ample mingling opportunity- start from as early as 1.18 years to 2 years.
Kids learn to manage themselves in groups this has benefits later on when they go to school. An early start in this arena helps them learn an important life skill- Team bonding and you can peacefully be rest assured that your toddler will know how to survive in groups as he grows.
- Encourage your little one to start eating and bathing independently
This can be started right after potty training your young one as by that time they start to follow instructions. This will teach them self-dependence and in a way helps to foster good hygiene habits.
- Self reading and self-play
I started by initially reading rhymes and pictorial story books to develop interest, slowly they picked up.
Now I buy them interesting books and they like to explore. I am blessed with two kids so introducing self-play was relatively easy, games like UNO, Carom Board, the good old SNAKES & LADDER, LUDO, CHESS etc. believe me kids love these activities. We only need to introduce them in the right way.
- Minimize dependence
Now this might be a little unconventional but I think it works wonders to ask the little ones to do tasks on their own as much as possible, things like dropping to school bus, applying paste on tooth brush, socializing independently etc.

Some might differ as we are traditionally taught to be servicing our kids, so per that standard we might be giving them a dose of extra freedom, but I believe this teaches kids to be responsible for the freedom they received and teaches an important life skill- Ownership.

If they commit a mistake they pay for it and learn to rectify errors on their own!
Now these were some things for the kids, what about us the moms.

It’s fine to want your dreams, to be living
Have a mission apart from being a Mommy.

“A child can teach an adult three things: to be happy for no reason, to always be busy with something, and to know how to demand with all his might that which he desires.” 

See my next post on “So you think you are a Mommy born to be? Are you truly connected?”  Next on my blog watch this space!